Finding My Family

I read adoptee blogs, and most of them are American. I see the effort and aggravation they have to go through, to find out *anything* at all.

I can’t even wrap my head around it.

I was born in 1972, at the QVH in Rose Park. Apparently it was a bit of a baby factory, but I don’t know a lot about it in that respect. I know there was no real “choice” in the matter.

When I was 19, I decided to search. I contacted Jigsaw (shit … I think it was Jigsaw), and had an appointment and long chat with them. They were very nice, very neutral, and within the month I had a package of paperwork full of personal background and health information.

I called my natural mother after a couple of days after that, and we met for coffee a couple of days after that.

I’m not kidding. It took no time at all, and because I was unemployed at the time, it was free.

I gather that if she had wanted to remain secret, I still would have got the package but with her name blocked out.

Guess what, the sky didn’t fall in.

I just don’t understand why it has to be so hard elsewhere.

One thought on “Finding My Family

  1. Jigsaw was founded in 1973 by Joss Shawyer, an Auckland feminist. She wrote the book DEATH BY ADOPTION in 1979 in New Zealand. I have two copies of this book. Very enlightening. I cannot understand the cruelty to mothers and babies. I cannot understand why other countries have – now – a much deeper understanding and compassion, but United States, no.

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